One thing is clear in my everyday life. Being an adult sucks some major monkey balls. Big harry monkey balls. You have so much to worry about and I haven’t even made it to the full on adult experience.
I still live with my parents. I have no kids. I am not married. Yet, I still have a world of worry sitting at my doorstep when I wake up in the morning.
Let’s make a list of things that suck about being an adult.
- Bills! Ugh bills. You can’t avoid them really. I have credit card bills because I was stupid when I was young. I got credit cards because I convinced myself it would help raise my credit…which it did. I actually do have a pretty okay credit score. Then there is the phone bill. Of course I could cut down on that cost by not having an iPhone…but then I wouldn’t be able to keep up with the world.
- Student loans. I didn’t lump this into the bill field because it’s a whole other story. See, I went to college thinking that I would get ahead in life with a college degree. Little did I know that I would leave college with a 60 thousand dollar loan and no job prospects. Yeah, I had a good job, but I was let go. Even experience on the job didn’t help in finding a new job. Student loans are a whore on a corner who ends up being a cop. She is dressed all fancy and clean…a clean whore. You pull over to ask her something, she yanks you out of the car, reads you your rights, handcuffs you, and throws you in the back of the car. No warning. It doesn’t matter that you were just going to ask for directions. You are now screwed for life. Thank you student loans.
- Time doesn’t actually matters. As a kid, time doesn’t really matter too much. You have to be at school at a certain time, but your parents make sure you are up and out the door on time. They tell you when to go to bed and you do it. It doesn’t matter what time it is. At least, it doesn’t matter to you. You just go about your business until some adult tells you what you have to do next.
- Driving. I admit, I love driving. But then you have to make car payments (another bill!!) and pay for gas. Let’s not forget the yearly check ups you have to get so your car doesn’t leave you stranded on the side of the road. And add on to the fact that you probably can’t afford a really nice new car, so even if you do get your car checked on a regular, it may decide to leave you stranded on the side of the road anyways. Thank the good man upstairs that my car is actually a pretty good car.
- Calling people about payments you can’t afford. This is what actually sparked my initial rage for today’s post. My student loan was deferred for a few months after I lost my job. Before, the payments were just under 300 a month. After the deferment ended the bill shot up to just over 600 a month. Add to the fact that with my new job I couldn’t even afford the 300 and you have yourself a big mess. What are my choices? Call them and talk to them, or ignore it until it ruins my credit. So of course I did the grown up thing and called them. Who actually calls people anymore?
- Ignoring things does not make it go away. Do you remember when you were younger and you would just ignore a problem and it would go away? Maybe your parents took care of it or the assignment was no longer due (and you proudly took the zero grade for it). Now, the longer you ignore something the more it messes up your life. Like…my car has this weird thing going on. It jerks like something is slipping in my motor. I try to ignore it, but I ignored it in my last car and that car is now in a junk yard somewhere. If I ignore my student loan my credit is shot and I can never buy a home…not that I could afford a home while paying for these student loans anyways.
When I was a kid I remember dreaming about being an adult. Driving where I wanted, living in my own place (I always wanted to live in an apartment), going out with friends and staying out as late as I wanted, having a really great job, meeting my prince charming. So many things I thought would be easy. I thought it just came with growing up. I learned soon enough that growing up meant fighting for all the things I wanted. And even with all the fighting I wasn’t guaranteed all the things I wanted.
I think I need to go work some of this steam off in the gym. Cause that is another thing we worry about as adults. Our health.